Do you think there is anyone in this world that has never ever felt unhappy or lost? I bet that even if there are some people like that, they are rather unique and exceptional. We all go through ups and downs and sometimes it feels like those downs never end, no matter what we do or how we behave we seem to be getting punished for everything…. If you feel like this—you are definitely not alone!

Some people are good in hiding their sadness and destructive emotions, others are more open about it, yet one thing is certain—we are all going through challenges and whether we want it or not, those always feel like they last a lifetime. I have learned that the most important thing though, is to stick through the hardships no matter how long they last as quitting will not change the situation and neither will we have learned the lesson we set out to learn….

Believe it or not, I have my down moments too—in all my positivity and happiness, every now and then I get extremely sad (well, it might happen once every blue moon, though it still happens ;)), feel like nothing is going the way I’d like to, that no matter how hard I try all I get is more hardship and pain and often I feel like hiding in a cave until it’s all gone and the sun is out again to caress my cheeks….

To have all those emotions simply shows that we are all humans—with our flaws and quirks ;) nothing more or nothing less, not better or worse, simply humans on our way to reaching our goals and fulfilling our dreams. And the truth is that getting there will take everybody a different time, distance and journey—there’s no universal answer or “right” way of doing it. That’s why we are all doing our best and testing different options, which sometimes make us feel great, other times less great….

One of my friend’s just told me that he feels like God is punishing him for everything he’s doing and that made me think. Doesn’t matter whether one believes in God, Allah, Universe, Magic, Spirits, Yourself or something else, we all have faith in something. Yet what often makes us feel like we are being punished and loose our faith is being disconnected from it in the first place.

Would you honestly think that any force that we believe in would want us to fail? What would be the point in punishing us and how would that make us find our place or balance in this World? I believe that when we feel like everything is against us it is just ourselves being disconnected and searching for a way to be connected with our faith again….

It is understandable that when you stop believing in yourself there’s no one who can totally fix that for you and this makes you feel even weaker and more lost. Therefore, the most crucial thing in this world is to keep the faith—no matter what happens, no matter how tough, lost or lonely one might feel—believing in yourself will help you through all of it ;)

And if you want your first set of believing eyes—here they are: I BELIEVE IN YOU!

Avoid confusing excellence with perfection—the first is achievable and the latter probably not…

It’s been quite a while since I’ve posted anything and to be honest I am rather upset about it…. Many have asked me WHY am I taking a break or what am I waiting for to start writing again and the only honest answer is that I am afraid to write something really stupid—just by writing this answer down I am laughing, knowing exactly how stupid this answer is LOL Yet this is a glimpse into a mind-set of a perfectionist….

I do understand that certain aspects of perfectionism are rather good and admirable—it can be seen as a driving force towards better results, commitment to projects that are started, persistence to continue even when the going gets tough and motivation to persevere in face of discouragement and obstacles; which is all nice to have when you really want to achieve something. Yet the negative sides of perfectionism can often work against all this….

For an example, I find it quite amazing that I am rather willing to wait for the perfect moment, opportunity or opening as long as it takes, all the while swim further away from my dreams and goals in fear of making a move that’s not 100% perfect; than taking a chance which might actually take me really close to my goals yet differs from my ideal understanding or has even a slight likelihood of failure.
And this has nothing to do with the fact that I don’t understand how stupid it is ;) I am fully aware of the fact that being a perfectionist is not always the greatest thing—it will hold you back in several occasions and put you in weird situations, just because you have an idea in your head how things should look like and you’re not willing to let go of that ideal picture.

Just as well as I realize the fact that there are no mistakes in life—all the decisions we make are part of our learning curve and are our next best steps. There’s always a reason why we choose to do certain things certain way—we might not always be aware of those reasons right away or not able to explain those choices, yet in the end—everything will make sense and whether we like the result right away or not, it will be clear to us that it worked out for the best.

For the same reason, I can see that there is no reason to hesitate—as there will be nothing to lose, even if I don’t make it 100% the way that I would ideally want to, I have still taken the opportunity to move closer to my goals and hopefully also learned something along the way. So, do you think that me understanding all this means that I also act like this?!? LOL

The road from understanding to doing is often a rocky and long one—information needs to be formed into knowledge and that is often done on a trial and error method. Unfortunately, if those errors aren’t vital the period of transformation can be longer than expected…

So, why am I writing on about my process of transforming my subconscious understanding? Well, I am pretty sure that there are quite a lot of perfectionists out there ;) some more focused on the details than others…. And whether we are fully aware of it or not, even when we understand it how certain negative things influence us they can still have an affect on our self-esteem, confidence and actions. In order to start the process of alteration the most important thing is to start loving ourselves the way we are—with all our imperfections, flaws and quirks—perfectionist or not, we are the closest to our own heart and soul; and whether we want to or not, this cannot be changed ;)

History has often proven that the simplest solutions are usually the best although not necessarily the easiest ones. Therefore, probably the best way to get to full action mode and past the idea of perfectionism holding us back, we should get rid of the thought and we get rid of doubts…. I told you—probably easier said than done ;) yet with faith everything is possible!

Let’s ride our wisdom to victory and take the best out of even perfectionistic minds! ;))

“Those, who dance, are considered insane by those, who cannot hear the music.”   George Carlin

I know I’ve been writing about this several times and talking about this constantly, yet I see it over and over again—people unselfishly giving every day and forgetting to take care of themselves. Don’t get me wrong, there’s absolutely nothing wrong in giving and supporting others, quite on the contrary, yet the key to giving always lies in the energy level and condition of the giver. If the “basket” is full one can give as much as possible, as long as one knows the secrets of finding the balance and refilling it. Once the basket is almost empty—one should definitely start thinking on how to recharge the batteries and what to do in order to stay balanced. Unfortunately, most people decide to boost their energy and regain balance after they’re burned out…. And mostly it happens to entrepreneurs, business-owners and leaders.

Why is this that we loose the sight of our own energy-scale—we always fill up the tank when the car is running low on gas (well, hopefully anyways ;)), so how come we don’t see the light blinking on our balance-sheet of energy? Or at least not stop when the tank is totally empty?

I would like to share some of the things that might help gathering the focus on your own energy and balance plus keep you more aware of your own holistic condition, if you like what you read—feel free to share ;)

• Check your breathing—counting your breaths within one minute will give you a great idea on whether your body is in “stress-mode” à more than 13 breaths/minute and ready to fight or relaxed and able to learn and understand à less than 7 breaths/ minute.
• If your breathing is too rapid make an effort to relax and count slowly to 5 while breathing in and to 5 when breathing out. That will give you a nice rhythm of breathing 6 times a minute.
• Consciously detect your thoughts—it’s not only what you say and how you communicate with people that show your attitude and level of energy, it’s almost always about what you think when your subconscious takes over. Follow your thoughts and consciously make all your streams of thoughts positive. Make an effort to use language that states positive instead the opposite, for example “I don’t know how to solve this problem” could be reversed into “This challenges me into looking at things differently” or “To explain it over and over again gives me a head ache, why can’t these people understand” could be thought of as “This type of repetition gives me a great chance of finding ways how to explain it better and challenges me into creative thinking”, etc.
• Gratitude instead of anxiety and negativity—there can be moments in our lives, when we get anxious or angry and feel like telling others how much better we would handle the situation. Instead of letting those negative emotions take over, find something in your life you are grateful for and concentrate on this feeling of gratitude—it’ll make you feel calm, shift the focus and let the turbulence pass.
• Start your day with 3 positive thoughts—which mood and attitude you are going to choose every day is up to you. If getting up a bit tired and restless, not ready to face the day’s challenges—decide that this is going to be a great day for you! Choose 3 things that you already know that you’ll like about this day and make it all about those things—enjoy them to the fullest. Carry those thoughts with you and cherish them with your whole heart!

Have at least 3 things each day that you do only for yourself. Those could be your lunch at your favorite café, a Skype call with an old friend and your favorite TV-show in the evening ;) or something else that makes you smile—work-out session, good article or book (if you have time ;)) or simply 10 minute meditation session. The most important thing is to take time for those things and see it as part of your balancing process! It is necessary to at least have an hour for yourself every day—could be divided into several parts, maybe 3×20 minutes works best for you—simply take the time and know that as much as you need to be there for others, just as much or even more you need to be there for yourself!

Not sure why, though to this day I still get amazed by people’s reaction when others respond differently than they’ve expected or when they don’t get the anticipated results. It is strange to think that lots of people actually seem to believe that everyone thinks, feels and acts alike—and of course there is only one way of doing it—the way they are doing it themselves. The word diversity seems to be just a cling or a sound; and the phrase “you are different” literally means, “you are not like me, hence you are not normal.”

I have no idea why it is so difficult to realize that we are bound to meet as many different opinions and views of life as many people cross our path…. This truly puzzles me and makes me sad—I guess because I also have my own expectations of people being open minded and hearted, touché!

It is extremely nice to meet someone who has similar understanding of life and feels passionate about the same things than you do—one instantly feels the connection and surely enough would believe that sharing similar values means that everything is understood equally the same way. Yet we have to realize that there’s only one of every personality—no matter how close or alike we might look, act or feel…. Misunderstanding resemblance and connection to another me can only create a lot of misunderstandings, which is funny because we don’t expect all sets of twins or lookalikes to have exactly the same personalities, do we?

We are never totally on the same plate, no matter how much we agree on things or how comparable we might sound. We all have our starting point in life and all the different experiences that have shaped us to this very person we are at this very moment—until tomorrow when the new encounters will change us again….

For some, life can be tough and challenging, full of trials and errors, painted with hardship and sadness, however even the most negative people will lighten up and see it all in shiny and happy colors when there are news to be shared on new life shortly appearing….

It is magical how out of almost nothing we are able to create new life—a little human being with all senses that function perfectly even before coming out of the womb—universe is miraculous! All it takes to create the miracle of new life is a bit of love ;) yet it takes so much more to help anyone born into this world to grow into a loving-caring-grateful human, putting even more pressure on the everlasting task of being a parent.

Since the day new life is conceived it starts developing senses and understanding of what’s going on around it; we might not call it a baby yet, nonetheless it has all the features needed to feel. And with every day that goes by the baby-to-be shapes more into a form that we recognize and grows slowly yet firmly to be part of all of our thoughts, feelings and senses.
If someone doesn’t believe in vibes and energy, looking at how the little life is responding to mother’s feelings and surroundings will definitely convert even the biggest unbelievers. The love a mother feels can definitely be felt in her womb and every happy thought can bring a tiny smile on the little soon-to-be-a-baby’s face ;) Can you imagine if all those emotions can be felt by this little love-bug, how much affect will any negative thought or feeling have? It’s easier to understand the relations between the baby and our emotions when we remember that thoughts and feelings are mostly positioned in our intuition, the one that resides in our gut—right there besides where the life in womb grows and shapes into a human being of it’s own.

Realizing how much any change in the attitude and feelings of a mother can affect a little unborn child might give you an example how everything in life is connected—it’s just a combination that’s easy to understand. This means that whenever someone around you is being unhappy or pouring out their negative thoughts—you’ll be affected, whether you want it or not and the only ways to protect yourself of it are either to beam back triple the amount of positivity or simply walk away and leave this unhappiness behind you….

Just think of how happy people become when they think of new life growing and soon appearing and find out what works equally well for you—creating positive emotions. Once you find this thought and remember this feeling, you’ll be able to copy it also into other moments of your life—creating the flashes of happiness and positivity that will help you carry through tough times ;)

Life will always appear the way you want to see it—you are the one who calls the shots!

How would you describe the amazing development of human beings? We have come a long way—being able to fly around the Earth, know how to do bypass operations, we can talk to and see people several thousand miles away like they were beside us and communicate with thousands at the same time, we have learned to trick nature in several situations and conquer many obstacles…. Yet, at the same time we have seemed to lose the ability to find balance in our lives and feel what our hearts desire; we have seemingly become worse in following our passions and sharing our love…. How is it possible that during the information era people are actually communicating less and the focus is getting away from things that really matter and touch our hearts? And why don’t we do anything about it?

There’s bound to happen something that makes us understand how important it is to communicate with people around you, and not only with those closest to you, to share what you have learned and give what you’ve got. We hear preachers talk about being free of judgments and yet several communities are full of prejudices towards anyone who’s even slightly different. We read and talk about morals and values, yet go after material things that make us look good and feel happy for about 5 seconds. Is that the world we really want to live in?

Every now and then I hear people stop and look around and say with the deepest sighs “I am unhappy,” until the business of everyday carries them into another swirl of challenges and happiness needs to wait until next time….

I have no idea whether it’s because of I am getting older LOL or because most of the people I am surrounded by nowadays are emphasizing the importance of the soul and spirits, either way, I am getting tired of the materialistic chit-chat and look for something that can fill my heart with joy and calm my mind of everyday turbulence. How about you? Do you ever feel like there’s too much focus on what we have and how this determines who and how good we are and too little weight on how we feel and what our heart desires?

We are who we want to be and not what the things or people around us tell us to be! It’s our turn to make this world more humane and a truly happy place to live in, where our hearts could sing constantly and our soul would feel free…

Some people, like George Carlin, see our World in dark colors: “The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider highways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, buy more, but enjoy less. We have knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness. We laugh too little, get too angry, love too seldom, and hate too often. We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life. We’ve added years to life not life to years. We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We’ve conquered the atom, but not our prejudice….”

Yet I believe that there’s hope for us all—by wanting to make a difference and making the decision to change I am sure that the reality can be altered….
Let’s make sure that our lives will be full of meaning and great friends, lots of love, laughter and joy, all the time in the world to spend with our loved ones, wellness and balance of our body-mind and soul. I cheer on us making every day worth living, loving and sharing, feeling grateful for who we have in our lives and for what we’ve accomplished and whom we’ve helped….

Has it ever happened to you that just when you think you’ve figured it all out and your life seems to be in a perfect balance, you get the biggest challenge of your life? Have you ever experienced feeling totally lost in one part of your life and yet at the same time enjoying perfect balance in the other part? How have you managed to pull yourself together, readjust and work towards learning from this new challenge—becoming even stronger and more balanced? Does it sound like your life story as well? ;)
Luckily we all go through peaks and lows in our lives and no matter how hard we try the spiral of life will never turn into a mellow straight line that’d be extremely comfortable, and to be quite honest, very boring to walk on. Sure, it can through certain times be rather irritating that we cannot fix something that seems other times like a walk in the park—however I am not sure that we’re always supposed to fix everything….
Doesn’t matter where you look or go, you can always see people struggling with love—not necessarily with the concept of being in love, rather the ever so powerful concept of love as the creating force and energy of life. There are loads of unhappy people, who claim to be unhappy because they haven’t found love, yet when you ask them—they all seem to be searching for it away from home….
I believe the only way to ever experience love is to learn to love yourself—truly, deeply, with all the qualities, quirks, faults and differences. To love oneself means being able to accept every part of you—even those deep and dark secrets that you want to avoid (like eating in bed or loving cartoons or not being able to sleep without a light LOL) and not let anyone to know about you—the true you that no one has ever really met, maybe not even you….
The fact is that there are probably things in all of our personalities that we’re not awfully proud of, some traits that we’d much rather hide or pretend not to have…. Although, while we look the other way and hope that by not facing those things they’ll disappear—we only hurt ourselves more and pull away from the ability to love. Ability to love the true you with all the smaller and bigger traits that you both love and despise; ability to forgive yourself for not loving yourself fully and setting up conditions and rules, making it hard to accept yourself the way you are…. Ability to let go and embrace everything the way it is—first and foremost yourself—is the key to love, the true unconditional love that so many of us desperately yearn for, nevertheless so perfectly fight against….
It does not have to be the big things we’re not accepting, we are good in pushing away not only things visible to the eye or something that’s really painful—it can easily be the smallest things happened to us ages ago that we resent and despise ourselves for. And what makes the matter worse often we are far from realizing why things happen to us the way they do and why love seems to be walking around us not inside us. Only when we start reflecting and going deeply into our hearts and listen to our intuition it is possible to get to the point where we love and feel loved and start appreciating everything about “ME”.

We hear it every day how precious life is and how important it is to tell our loved ones how much we care and appreciate them—to cherish and be grateful for what you have every minute. My question is—when was the last time you told yourself that you are loved and cherished, as you should definitely be par of your loved ones?
The great thing is that it’s never too late ;)
Love yourself with all your heart and share this magical feeling with everyone around you!

The other day I came across this wonderful thought, “we don’t attract what we want, instead we attract who we are.” There has been so much talk about how we have to be very careful with what we want as we might just get it—only we need to be very specific with our wants and wishes and I totally agree with this attraction part of our thoughts. Yet when I came across this sentence it totally made sense to me, it was kind of like “eureka” to me ;)

People often say that it’s impossible to change who you are deep down to your roots, that once you’re sort of grown up and form your understanding of the world you mostly stick to it. Maybe, then again I believe everything is possible if you really want to and believe in it! What changing your beliefs really means is that you have to do some soul-searching and figure out whether you still see yourself attached to those beliefs or do you simply hang on to them because this is easier since you’re already so used to them…. That’s what makes it so difficult—once you realize that you’re not who you think you are any longer, you would have to do something about it and take the responsibility for your life. Well, definitely it’s much easier to stay in the comfort zone and go with the flow never questioning and simply adapting, yet the question is ‘is it what you really want?’

So, how can we attract who we are—what does that even mean? I tend to think that what we believe in and how we communicate, behave and act is in straight contact with what we look for in life…. Sort of like what you give is what you get. Maybe this is why you hear people often telling that “this Law of Attraction thing doesn’t really work, I tried it and it was useless….” Maybe, if you want something that is totally against who you are and the message that you send out to the Universe, it conflicts with everything that happens around you and pushes you out of the flow, hence it’ll never happen?

I firmly believe that you can change your destiny and choose your own journey, yet I also believe that in order for anything to happen “my way” there needs to be alignment between the Universe and yourself…. In case of a conflict the usual would happen—either there’ll be made a compromise to the wish or simply you’ll walk out unhappy knowing that your wish didn’t come true.

Realizing that we can attract only who we are and what we believe in definitely shifts certain understandings, as well as it also makes it so much easier to keep believing in your own power and abilities, not beating yourself up because of some goals cannot be achieved in a blink. All you have to do is to be what you want to achieve….

Well, that can be tricky too, yet it’s a totally different topic ;)